Saturday Series: perfect flaws

You’re loving people for their flaws because deep down in your gentle tired heart, you actually want someone to love you for all your flaws.
You hope that by loving them for their visible glaring faults, they might one day, in turn, love you, as unconditionally as you love them, for yours.
Now face it, people in the world don’t think the way you do, and they aren’t as kind-hearted as you.

So stop. Stop loving people for their flaws. Just stop –/

There’s nothing lovable about flaws. You need to learn to accept their faults and character cracks. That’s all. Full stop.
You don’t have to romanticize or balloon their faults to love them.

How about this: Love them for their strengths. Love them for their successes and good points.

And at the same time, you must learn to love yourself. Love yourself for everything you excel in. Find something you’re good at and grow from there. Stop deprecating yourself.
Don’t just focus on your failings.
Think of how much you can love yourself for all your shortcomings if you could love those people for all their despicableness.

Remember, you can never hate yourself into a version you or anyone else will love.

Then, I hope you’ll be able to find the happiness you’ve been pretending to have.

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Thursday Thoughts: How You Love Me Now

They teach you how to love but never how to stop. And through your anguish, you learn that some love has no end.

I think it’s kinda dangerous if you like someone for some specific reason. Cos what if that reason is gone one day, how are you gonna continue to love that person?
So I say to the brave hearts, if you find love, love them for no reason, love them for them.
That way, they’ll never need to worry about you losing love for them.

Thursday Thoughts: All the Light I cannot see.

The sun is always shining. But you are the one that decides how bright it shines.

It’s been night

For as long as I can remember

And i have forgotten

All the light

I cannot see.
.

Fading stars

Barely faking a glittery farce

Black dark night

I’ve lost my sight.
.

How long will the night last?

I pray the day comes fast

To show me

All the light

I cannot see.
.

And if the darkness

Won’t seem to pass

I pray to God

To teach me

To trust

In all the Light

I cannot see.

“Be still, my soul, the waves and winds still know, the Voice that ruled them while He dwelt below.”

Thursday Thoughts: Oxymorons

And the worse thing was that she knew she deserved so much better, but, oh, how appallingly weak-willed she was, to keep falling for the pair of hands that constantly tore what remained of her soul apart.

It’s so painfully ironic seeing people degenerate into a pathetic state where they purposefully love someone that continually hurts them and breaks their fragile heart, but so willingly hurt the angels that genuinely love them for their mere existence; a troubling time in a confused world where people show mind-boggling extra care & out-of-the-way concern for those who ignore them, while deliberately ignoring the ones that truly care about them.

Weekend updates

Last Saturday, my YG had our second quarterly youth outing. 

 We went cycling, something which I haven’t done for quite awhile, at Punggol Park. It was super fun especially so cus my one of my closest friends joined the outing  

This was taken about halfway through the ride. We three and a few others were always ways ahead of the others so we had to stop to wait for the others to catch up. 😂

 It was super hot that day, and there was not much shelter around the park.  Das me at the left, middle is my big bro with his NS hairstyle, and on the right, my awesome Youth Leader with his cool shades

We cycled for about an hour and a half including the frequent stops we had to make to wait for the rest to catchup it was blazing hot and fortunately there was this small water park which I believe was built for days like last Saturday and a few of us walked through the water and got ourselves wet which we found out was a very good idea cus when we began to cycle again, the water in our clothes made the wind we felt cool. It took us about another 20 minutes from the water park to reach the place where we had lunch. First time ever I finished my drink that my brother up-sized for me Clap for me please thank you   

Selfie while queuing to place food orders cus we’re awesome. 

Youth leader’s wife came while we were having our lunch at KFC. She brought with her a cake cus it was one of our guys birthday (: sang happy birthday gobbled down our lunch and the cake cus we had to hurry back to return the bicycles. We rented them for 3 hours, started from 10.15 and had to get back by 1.15. Where we were having lunch would take us about 30 minutes ride to get back to the bike rental place and we only finished lunch at about 1pm 😂

we reached back slightly late but haha it was good enough, super fun racing with my doppelgänger and being able to cycle with my friends. 

It was super hot and after we returned the bicycles, some of us went to get drinks from the supermarket beside the bike rental place. Here’s us, pretending to buy soya milk, but really, we were just trying to cool ourselves off in the refrigerator.

Cooled off near a pond where we saw turtles and on of them was planking or maybe dying from being frozen by the sunFortunately for the poor turtle, he was saved from drying up in the sun my friend sprayed water on him, saving his life

After that we caught the bus to the interchange And took another bus from the interchange to home. 

The cool kid beside me came to my place, tried out my piano for a few minutes and then we left house to  play badminton cus we booked a court  at ace the place. Played from 3.30-5.30, came home, took a bath and this happened: It hurt quite abit on Sunday but it’s bearable now. It’s not so red anymore and I’d say the pain and the tan was worth the fun I had with the people around me. 

Here’s to looking forward to more of such good days ahead 😉